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trauma - A deeply distressing or disturbing experience, especially one with lasting emotional impact; a psychological or emotional wound, often resulting from an intense or life-threatening event.

Childhood trauma can have long-lasting effects on a person’s mental health
dowdy - (of a person or their clothes) unfashionable and without style in appearance (typically used of a woman)
When Helen reached the age of 100, she didn't care that people thought that she dressed in a dowdy manner, she contented herself thinking about the wonderful family she had raised.